Communicating with your significant other: how to speak when there is nothing to talk about
You may have seen those couples who sit in a restaurant, eat their food in silence, pay, and leave. They have nothing to say to each other. Good or bad? That depends on the situation. The following article looks at how to find topics to talk about when there is nothing to talk about.
Comfortable in each other’s company
The couples mentioned above can feel really comfortable in each other’s company and they don’t need a lot of words. They may have lived a lifetime together and said all that needs to be said. Really? I do not believe it.
Despite the fact that a couple can check all the boxes, feel comfortable in each other’s company, not need many words, have lived a lifetime together, there is still a lot to be said.
Getting to know each other
In my work with couples, I find that no matter how long they have been married, there are still things they don’t know about their partner. One of the foundations for a strong relationship, according to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, is getting to know each other. Suggest that couples play the game of asking themselves questions like, “What are the 3 most challenging situations in your life today?” or ‘Who is your best friend and why?’
You can even up the ante if you find the answer for your partner before they respond and put your knowledge to the test. Start by writing down 10 to 20 questions that you would like to ask your partner, questions that you would also be willing to answer yourself. You can then choose one question at a time or pull them out of a hat.
Talking about the past
There are so many interesting stories in the past. Those memories will last a lifetime talking to your partner. Tell each other about your days at school, your most treasured experiences as a teenager, your travel adventures before you met, etc.
In case the topics run out, make up an exciting story and enjoy imagining it together.
Imagination
Do you see that couple on that bench over there? Start by making up your life story or the content of your conversation. Tell your partner where you have met and what will happen in your life in 5 to 10 years.
Dreams about the future
Share your dreams and aspirations for the future with others. You can do this as a vision quest, in which you collectively send an order to the universe about your next dream vacation destination. Write specifically about where you would like to go, what you would like to see and do, etc.
The importance of all the suggested activities is to be creative and not be captured alone in the reality of daily life. Your thoughts and words have the power to create, so ask yourself if you want to spend your creative time complaining about things that have happened or dreaming about what you would like to create.