There are times when you start to become disillusioned with your current relationship. Things don’t seem to be working out with your boyfriend and you are getting fed up with his behavior and lack of understanding. This is the time to take matters into your own hands and do something to change the situation. Here are some tips to help you.

Let him know that you are not happy

The best thing to do is to let him know as soon as possible that you are unhappy with the way things are. This will put him on his guard and he will guess it has something to do with him. A sentence like that will not only prompt you to have a reality check, but you could also confess that you are rude and try to make things better.

Tell him to get in shape or else!

If you find that your boyfriend is careless and insensitive to the entire relationship and is doing nothing to improve things, then it’s time to give him an ultimatum. Tell him he better get in shape or else you will move on! This should shake it up and make it change!

Start to cool off by seeing less of him.

One way to get the message across is to start to cool down and see less of him. If he really likes you, he will worry that you seem to be losing interest. This is when he will know that he has to change his ways and impress you again or else he will lose you.

Do not pamper him or pamper him

One of the worst things you can do is pamper and pamper him and then hope he’s “perfect”! If you don’t like his ways and the current situation, it is your duty to make it clear to him that you want things to change. If you keep quiet and let him bully you, you will spoil him and make him more stubborn and selfish.

Do not turn a blind eye to their faults

Another thing that will not change the circumstances is if you turn a blind eye to your shortcomings. It doesn’t help to ignore your flaws and disgusting habits and then complain and feel miserable about it. If you are diplomatic and gentle, you may be able to get him to change his ways and make things better.

Start enjoying hanging out with others

If you are not satisfied with the current relationship, it does not mean that you are suffering in silence. Get out there and make new friends to start having fun for a change. When he sees that you are having fun without him, he will have doubts about being so callous and cold to you.

Don’t compromise or settle for less

If you are really fed up and unhappy with your boyfriend, maybe you should go ahead and find someone else. By accepting the situation, you are settling for less and it is not fair to you.