When you want a happy marriage, you need to find what binds the two of you together, like glue! This is the kind of advice that has been passed down through the centuries and when it is something that works, it is worth considering.
Each couple experiences a unique relationship as no two people are the same. The attraction between you, your shared life together and everything that goes into making your relationship is what will keep you together. But this is not all that strengthens your marriage. You can’t afford to get complacent and think that now that you’re married you don’t need to try since you’re together for life, end of story. Make a happy marriage, have a happy marriage requires effort, time and commitment; it is not something that grows by itself. And as with anything that requires nurturing and care, there are steps necessary to make it happen.
Many people mistakenly think that getting married means that ‘dating’ is no longer necessary, which is wrong! With the stresses and strains of a busy life at home and work, dating is even more critical than ever before. Both parties need to get out of their routines to relax and reconnect with each other and remember the love they have for each other. They need time to play and temporarily let go of responsibilities and recharge their marriage/love battery. It can’t run continuously on a finite ‘gas tank’, it eventually runs out and has to be refueled. It can’t run on empty all the time and not take some damage!
Some people think that they should put their children and others first, but the most important thing in a child’s life is, above all, that their parents love each other. That is where a child’s safety lies. They need to see their mom and dad loving each other and taking time to be together, as well as taking care of them. They need to see their parents model care for each other and their relationship, so that they, too, can have a happy and healthy marriage as adults.
Communication is another area where two people can stick together or get stuck. Each party should feel that her lover has their back and even if she disagrees, she will support the other with love and respect. Learn to actively listen to each other; There is no greater compliment to anyone than to really listen and try to understand what the other is saying. Good listening skills are something that anyone can develop and it is wise to note that God gave us two ears and eyes but only one mouth, so there must be something to that. Developing your own couple language and understanding each other is the way to bond a happy marriage.
Before mentioning about dating, well, if a couple rarely spends time together, they will loosen the ties between them to the point of drifting away from each other until they are far apart. So, spend time together and don’t watch TV, but actively reconnect with each other on a regular basis. If necessary, schedule a date between them and see it as one where you have to pay a lot of money to see this person, because it truly is the most valuable time you can spend with anyone. That is, if your marriage and your partner are your number one priority!
And what about love? You know, the physical type…
After being together for a few years, the desire to be intimate most of the time wears off, but the attraction between you shouldn’t. You may have to put in a little more effort and schedule romantic dates and even a weekend getaway or two every year, but do it. The more you have sex and release those feel-good hormones, the more you’ll want to. This is a time when you can have fun and explore each other. It is a moment of play that is unique only to the two of you, it is a part of you that you do not share with anyone else, so enjoy this special part of your relationship together. Do not neglect it and you will have a little more glue to join when you want a happy marriage.
At the time when you were searching for your perfect match, you may have thought you would never find her, but finding her was easy compared to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. However, don’t rely on her wedding vows to maintain your marriage, you must actively work on it little by little, day by day. If you want a happy marriage, you need to care for it like you would a beautiful flower garden: regularly and with the right ingredients at the right times.
