Do you know that most affairs end when the married couple returns to their spouse? That’s how it is. Although some married men and women spend months and even many years cheating on their spouses with another partner, it is quite rare for the married couple to leave their marriage. The risk of having an affair and being found out by your spouse today is great. With all the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, toll scanners, and cell phone records, it’s becoming more and more risky and literally a stupid choice. Why waste passion on a lover you’ll eventually leave? Why risk the pain and embarrassment that you and your family would suffer?
Instead, why not start to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place?
Most people have a hard time breaking free from the marital trappings of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into the business of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of the housework and carrying on with the responsibilities, stress and worries that often accompany the good American life. . How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back in your relationship. For starters, HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE!
Be creative to start. What would you need to have an affair with someone outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, caring and daring. I would certainly take a closer look at your personal image, the way you dress, comb your hair, and personal hygiene. You would become a better listener and you would want to expand your comfort zone. You might take a few dance lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, set up travel plans, and explore a new cuisine.
When the dynamism seems to have left your marriage, it’s time to consider rekindling that flame. Don’t let your children be an excuse. And in fact, don’t let your parents, who now live with you, get in the way either. You can have a sexy relationship and a satisfying sex life with your spouse if you really try.
ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean for your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you dine…) What makes your spouse sexy? Think of the following ideas and start working on the list for a couple of months:
* Call your spouse and say something sexy, or in some cases, if it works for you, something “dirty.”
Ask him to meet you outside the house if possible. Go somewhere far from your neighborhood where no one knows you. Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot like lovers. Make out in the car of one or the other, or start in the parking lot. Move the passion to the restaurant. Holding hands, touching legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names and ACT like you are not husband and wife. Look at the stars you get.
* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake and have a picnic. Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, fruit slices, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you’d like. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Make sure you are in a safe place because people get mugged in remote places. Maybe get a rowboat, or take a pontoon ride, do some fishing, ride a bike. Do something different.
*Stop at a mall and choose a fragrance that you would like to smell on your spouse. If you can’t afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it up well. Buy a piece of sexy men’s lingerie or underwear for your partner.
* Have phone sex. It could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You will start to look forward to this sexy talk.
*Prepare a candlelight dinner for two.
* Drive to a new indoor mall and storefront, stop for coffee and pick out a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.
* Cook together. Go to the supermarket and choose sexy foods. Attractive foods can be foods that increase sexual desire, such as certain types of shellfish, or they can be foods that you find attractive.
Includes a good bottle of wine.
*Have sex somewhere other than your house. Like on your couch, living room floor on a blanket, get creative. (Always close the blinds and make sure no one crosses you)
*Shower together or bathe together.
* Try to exercise together. It’s amazing how many people meet sexy people at their gyms.
*Give yourself a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.
*Watch a sexy movie together.
* Go for a walk together and hold hands. Take time to look at the trees, the night sky, and the passers-by.
*Take an afternoon off work and go to the Art Institute or a museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.
*Go to dance
* Plan a long-awaited trip. Talk to each other once a week about where you want to go, what you would like to do, and what it will be like to be away from home and all the day-to-day routine.
* At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how calmly you can have sex. Pretend you are teenagers and that your parents could come in.
*Start making love with your spouse with words. Remember what you love about him/her. Her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in her drawer, in the coffee pot, in her briefcase, inside a book, wherever she reads it when you’re not around.
*Write a sexy love letter and mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.
*Spend time learning a new activity that the two of you can share in the years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take
bird watching, learning about gardening or yoga. Whatever you choose, make it something that both people enjoy.
*Take your spouse out on a date and plan it. Pick up your date and go back to pretending you barely know each other.
* Storms create a lot of energy, images and sounds. Some people really enjoy making love during a storm. Just watching a storm can be sexy. The power behind lightning and thunder is exhilarating for some couples.
*Send flowers or candy to your spouse at work or home with a love note attached.
*Do something you normally wouldn’t do, like go to a sporting event. Sometimes be in a scream
happy crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are boosted by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you’ll start to think you’re younger again. Observe how young people act towards each other. On the other hand, if you are younger, notice how the older people are tender with each other.
*During intimate moments, do new things by starting the event well before it actually happens. After
do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make sure your partner approves of any suggestion, either verbally or with their actions.
* Try to touch certain parts of the body that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If you don’t want to be touched after your shower, don’t. If you walk up behind your spouse while he/she is combing his/her hair and gently kiss an ear and then caress a significant part of the body, note the response. You can vary the time you spend making love. Once in a while it’s good to have sex and not make love, and other times making love by taking your time and lengthening the sequence works well.
Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exhilarating, fun, and very rewarding. Having an affair with the person you really love is something that can last a lifetime, it creates closer ties between you and your whole family. When the parents are happy, the children can feel it, they can feel it.
Having an affair with your spouse is not just about improving your sex life, it is about improving your life in every way. So go a step further and do more things together, still have your own interests, expect to share all aspects of the marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other’s wants, likes, and dislikes, and by supporting each other as you move through all phases of life and marriage.
There is certainly a lot more involved in creating the perfect love story. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty and your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a long lasting sexy love relationship with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.
True love is worth…
