If you want to be happier, I’d like to offer you the following suggestions to help you do just that. If you make the effort to do them, your vibration will change. And when that happens, you will be happier.

Here is a list of ten things you can do that will help you be happy:

1. Stop complaining

2. Appreciate everything

3. Minimize the negative/focus on the positive/stop using negative things as an excuse to feel unhappy

4. Stop arguing about your limitations

5. Find any excuse to be happy

6. Examine what you love about your life and apply the same mindset to an area you don’t love as much.

7. Be decisive with what you want

8. Mood comes before being (feelings precede circumstances, so feel good first and good things will happen as a result of feeling good)

9. Adopt the attitude that everything is happening for your highest good, no matter how ugly and uncomfortable it may seem.

10. Being able to change your mind about something you previously thought couldn’t be changed

The hardest part I’ve found is staying positive when something happens that seems negative or the opposite of what you intended happens. But, you just have to find a way. Your happiness depends on it!

I have observed in my life and the lives of others as well that there seems to be this tendency to rely on external circumstances to determine how you feel about things. When we feel that things are going well, we are happy. If we feel that things are not going well, we are not so happy. We’re rolling happily and then BAM! something happens that doesn’t feel right. So what do we do? We started to focus on this. We tell ourselves things like “Why did this happen?” or “Everything was fine until this happened.” We are trained to do this throughout our lives, but I have found that doing this does not help your vibration or give you what you want.

This pattern must be interrupted. What I suggest instead is to minimize the seemingly negative things. At the same time, accentuate any and all positive things, no matter how small they seem. I have learned that the state of being precedes everything that happens. So if you’re feeling good, squeeze that good feeling for all it’s worth! Appreciate all you can about it and accept it. This is probably the hardest thing to train to do. If you are able to stay positive when something seems negative or the opposite of what you intended, you have discovered the coveted secret that everyone is talking about.

This is your real job. This is the area where you must be disciplined, focused, and relentless. Working on your attitude and mindset will get you further than any other kind of hard work and discipline you’re applying toward action steps. If you think you should work hard, then do it. However, instead of putting that work into long hours at the office, make an effort to focus on the positives and lose the negativity.

What helped me was adopting a general attitude that whatever happens (good or bad), it’s happening for a reason. Not only that, it is happening for my highest good. It’s happening because I need it to happen on some level and my higher self knows it. Trust that this is so. Open your mind to the possibilities. Be willing to change your mind about something you previously thought could not be changed. Whether you think something is true or not true, it is.

A good place to start is making the decision to stop complaining. Period. No apologies. Make a commitment. IT DOESN’T SERVE YOU TO COMPLAIN AND IT NEVER SERVES YOU! Break the habit of complaining and replace those complaints with positive affirmations. It’s almost as if we forget all the good things we have when these things happen. Tell yourself that this was just one thing. It doesn’t take away from the other wonderful things, so focus on those wonderful things instead of the one thing that isn’t wonderful. You’ll attract other complainers if you keep this up. Wouldn’t you rather draw a different crowd?

You need to stop using these seemingly negative things as an excuse to be unhappy. Instead, find every excuse to be happy. This one change can make a profound difference in your life.

Once you discover something that works, think about your mindset regarding that thing. Then apply that to an area of ​​your life that isn’t working as well. Ask yourself how you feel about the things that are working. Notice how confident you are about it. How did you develop in this area? Use the same strategy to move forward in the areas where you would like to see some change.

Another thing you can do is stop arguing about your limitations. When someone suggests that you do something and you don’t feel like you can do it, examine your reasons for it. Normally, we can find all sorts of reasons why we can’t do something and insist that those things prevent us from doing what we want. Try to turn it around and start arguing for your abilities instead. Focus on the reasons why you CAN. Those limitations you feel are just doubts or fear. They are powerless once you decide to face the fear and overcome the doubts.

Be decisive about what you want. Talk to yourself as if you were a friend you believe in. You would cheer your friend on, wouldn’t you? If your friend was feeling bad about himself and you were to cheer him up, what would you say? Say these things to yourself.

I know how hard it feels to focus on the positive when something bad happens. I make. However, due to my determination to feel good, I was able to do it. I learned how because I made the decision that nothing is more important than feeling good. This was the best decision I have ever made. I constantly remind myself of this decision when something happens that seems negative.

Finally, I have found that being decisive about what you want helps tremendously. Someone told me recently that he was hard to please. No one has told me that before. He gave me back. But, once I thought about it, I took it as a compliment. He made me realize that my vibration had changed and that was a bit of feedback by showing me this.

You see, it wasn’t until I started insisting that he get what he really wanted that I started getting it. It sounds like a no-brainer, but for me, it wasn’t. What I was doing was settling for less than I wanted with this attitude of being open to possibilities. But, it wasn’t really open. I wanted certain things, but my vibration was too cloudy, so I was getting bits of what I wanted. So, you would think you had to make a situation work when it wasn’t really what you wanted. I needed to clear my vibration and the way you do that is to be very clear about what you want and then recognize something good when it shows up.

I was seeing myself as the person who wants something and wasn’t willing to settle for less. It was my desire to expect the right thing that he was seeing as something difficult to please. My response to his comment was to say “No, I just know what I want and it’s not, why waste more of my precious time on it?”. Lo and behold, I stood my ground and the right thing appeared very shortly after that incident.

That was the mistake he had been making. If you know something isn’t right or isn’t working, gently let it go. Stop holding on to things because you think you can’t do better or you’ll end up with nothing. It’s the equivalent of staying with a man who hits you because you think you can’t do any better and you think being alone is worse than being hit. This realization/change has made a huge difference in my life.

If you can apply one of the ten things I mentioned in your life, I am sure you will notice the difference. The differences are subtle at first, but once you keep going, the changes become more and more noticeable. Give it a try. What can you lose?