I think it is important to discuss why you chose a particular style of diaper to control your child’s bedwetting for the following reasons: it shows that you are understanding because you are taking into account the child’s feelings about wearing diapers, it shows that you are not treating of an arbitrary decision designed to belittle or demean the child or adolescent, and demonstrates that it has the best interests of the youth in mind. As one book on adolescent psychology put it: “As the adolescent seeks autonomy, the wise adult relinquishes control in those areas where the adolescent can make reasonable decisions and continues to guide the adolescent in areas where the adolescent’s knowledge is more limited.” “. In my opinion, choosing an appropriate product to control nocturnal enuresis would fall into the second category. Adults have more life experience. This life experience makes them more effective at controlling their emotions and not letting them get in the way of making important decisions, particularly regarding health care.

Bed-wetting is a very poignant subject for most older children, teens, and teens, and as a result, they are probably not as objective as parents when choosing the most effective product to control their bedwetting. Due to young people’s self-image concerns, their choice of what type of product to use at bedtime will depend more on this criterion than on how well the product protects them at night.

As mentioned above, it’s good for parents to talk to them about all the different products out there to control bedwetting and the pros and cons of each. If there is a disagreement about what type of product to use for sleep, parents can go over why they are requiring the child or teen to use one product over another. For example, it could be the case that the child or adolescent wants to use one type of product (for example, cloth diapers without strings), while the parents consider that cloth diapers with snaps and plastic pants would be the Better option. If that’s the case, parents can say something similar: “I know you’d rather use pull-on diapers than pin diapers, but pin diapers have several advantages. You move around a lot.” at night they are very humid. Also, you tend to sleep on your side. Pull-on diapers are more effective at treating these specific issues because they are thicker than pull-on diapers and you can customize the material on pull-on diapers, whereas with a no-pull diaper by putting more material on the diaper, it makes pile up It may take some time to get used to pin diapers, but in the long run be much happier because these will protect you much better than pull-on diapers, which in turn will make you feel more comfortable. Your mom and I devised a reward system to encourage you to try these diapers for a while. happy with this idea and would like to discuss it now.” Again, by doing this, it makes the child or teen feel much better about the situation rather than the parent saying “you’re wearing diapers with snaps and plastic pants on the bed because we say so!”

If a child or teen is reluctant to use a certain type of product in bed, parents should definitely listen to them and then work with them to try to overcome their anxiety. This requires patience, warmth and encouragement. I would also say something along these lines: “I realize that you are getting older and you may feel that in making the final decision in this matter, we are treating you like a baby or a small child, but we have a lot of experience in these matters and the products we choose for you to go to bed offer the best protection. They will make you feel much more comfortable at night than the other products you used.” Going back to my earlier analogies about wearing a cast, glasses, or braces, it’s a little uncomfortable and off-putting at first, but eventually a person gets used to them and the person they are for their own good. The same goes for the use of plastic diapers and pants for a problem of nocturnal enuresis.

By discussing the reasons behind their decision about what type of diaper to use for bedwetting, you are helping them in a very significant way: you are saying that you acknowledge their concerns about diapering and this makes it more likely that they won’t. . she feels that she is treating him like a baby because she respects him enough to discuss why she is making him wear a specific type of diaper at night. I have a feeling that this conversation with the child or adolescent, along with the use of the reward system discussed above, will help them feel less apprehensive about the prospect of wearing diapers to bed.

I would also mention that there are situations where parents buy diapers for their parents with incontinence issues, such as a parent suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, and there are cases of married couples dealing with bedwetting and the spouse of the person who bedwetting suggests that you wear diapers to bed. In the case of the bedwetting spouse, while there may be some initial embarrassment at the thought of nighttime diapers, the bedwetter realizes that it is fair to the person sharing the bed with them and eventually gets used to it. . Mentioning these scenarios to the child or teen helps them realize that they are not alone and will help them feel less embarrassed about their parents putting diapers on them at night. They may say to themselves, “If parents buy diapers for their parents and the husband or wife of a bedwetter suggests that they wear diapers to sleep, then I guess it’s not such a bad thing that my parents encourage me to wear diapers.” for sleeping”. bed too.”

The last thing I would like to mention regarding the older child, teen, or teen who might have difficulty accepting bedwetting diapers is the following. Parents should let her know that it’s not uncommon to feel this way. Many adults with incontinence also have difficulty accepting diapers, but eventually they do. As mentioned above, it would be a good idea for the child or adolescent to talk to others in a similar situation.

Along with the techniques mentioned above to help the youth accept diapers, it may be necessary for the youth to talk with a mental health professional (if financially feasible) to help them adjust to wearing diapers in bed. My opinion is that by using all of these approaches together: the reward system, discussing the reasoning behind their choice of a particular type of diaper, positive self-talk, parental encouragement when the child becomes distressed and/or discouraged by diapers, by talking to a mental health professional and mentioning the fact that adults make other adults wear diapers to sleep, they will be able to internalize the positive psychological aspects of these strategies. This, in turn, will help them cope with the idea of ​​wearing diapers, help them dispel the negative image they may have of themselves due to wearing diapers to bed, and they will feel more self-confident because being protecting yourself more effectively which will help improve your self-esteem.

I realize that what I have just said goes against the prevailing wisdom espoused by most pediatricians, child psychologists, and other professionals, but I think it is time we reassessed our current attitudes toward bedwetting management and Let’s look at this problem in a whole new way. light.

How one copes with the use of diapers to deal with bedwetting is a very personal matter. Some people have no problem wearing diapers to bed and are even happy to wear them because of the safety and comfort they provide, while others need a lot of coaxing and encouragement to use them. Parents should not be discouraged if this is the case. It may take several months or more (depending on the person) for the youngster to feel completely comfortable wearing diapers at night.

Although it may take a while for your little one to get used to wearing diapers to bed, over time your child or teen will realize how much more comfortable and secure they will feel. At this stage they will have no problem putting diapers on before going to bed. It will be second nature to them. Just like brushing their teeth, they’ll see diapering as just another part of their nightly routine.