If you want to be good at something, you have to practice.
This is quite evident, from everything to cooking and playing the violin.
When we see someone who is really good at golf, or is some kind of superhuman juggler, we realize that person has spent a lot of time practicing their craft.
No one ever takes a bunch of pins and starts throwing them naturally.
And even the violinist with the most beautiful sound screeched like a dying cat when they started.
Meeting and seducing girls is no different.
Even the most charismatic “naturals” you know weren’t always like this. They had their first conversation with a woman at some point, usually in elementary school, or maybe even kindergarten.
And when they talked to her, they didn’t know what they were saying or doing, or even what they wanted.
Everyone knew that talking to girls was fun, and the more they did it, the better they got.
This increased their self-confidence, their self-esteem, and their belief in what they were capable of doing.
This shows through their body language, facial expressions, and even the speed with which they scan a room. Not nervously, like some poor sexless guy desperate for attention, but like a laid-back killer who KNOWS deep in his bones that sooner or later he’s going to get something.
The secret to getting from where you are now, to being THAT GUY, is the same way he got to be.
Practice. But not how to see it as practice. Seeing it as fun.
The intent you set when you start a conversation will do wonders for your game.
If you intend to get a number, or even have sex in record time, that’s a specific thing that may or may not happen.
But if your intention is just to have fun, you just CAN’T lose. No matter what you say or do, it’s just something to enjoy. Flip it, frame it, reframe it, laugh at yourself being cut to pieces, whatever.
Once you let go of any kind of “need” for success, something magical will happen.
Look, everyone is natural inside. Humans are programmed to know and make more humans.
It’s just that when you put a lot of fears and anxieties on top of your inner nature, things go wrong.
The easiest way to release your inner natural is to just relax and have fun.
A VERY easy way to do this is to have several HUGE things in your life that you are creating.
That way, every time you see a cutie, you won’t immediately see her as the solution to all your problems. You will see her as a unique individual to be discovered and enjoyed.
